Tuesday, March 14, 2017

Punching Bag

Punching Bag

Let your eyes close. I am going to say a series of words describing different feelings or emotions that you may have had. As I say each word, simply silently acknowledge to yourself whether or not you have experienced it.



Mindfulness teaches us how to notice when we are experiencing these emotions and feelings, to stop and watch how they feel in our mind and our body, and to react differently than we may have in the past.

Did you ever play with those blow-up punching bags that have sand in the bottom and sit on the ground? When you punch them they fall all the way down to the ground and then pop back up and wobble back and forth for a long time until finally they become still again. Well, the mind is like this when we are hit with a very strong emotion.

Can you think of a time when you have felt an emotion very strongly and you felt “knocked to the ground”. It may have taken you days before you finally didn’t feel that anymore and that you felt “balanced and still” again.

When we develop mindfulness, that punching bag gets hit, but it no longer gets hit to the ground. It is stronger and it only gets pushed a little off to the left or right. And, because it hasn’t fallen so far, it comes back to the center more quickly.

When we practice awareness, or mindfulness, we are teaching ourselves to have better balance and to not fall down so far from a strong emotion or feeling. 

Source: MindfulSchools
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Monday, March 13, 2017

Mindful Eating Practice with Kids

Try this Mindful Eating exercice during your class!

"I am going to say three sentences. Please just be mindful of your inner reaction to each sentence. Notice any thoughts, responses, feelings that occur.
I brought you something today. wait a moment for them to notice.

What I brought is something you can eat. wait a moment for them to notice. I brought raisins. wait a moment for them to notice.

Ask for a couple to share their reaction to each sentence.

I am going to come around to each person and hand out a couple raisins. When you get your raisins just hold them in your hand but don’t eat them just yet! Just keep your raisins until I give the to everyone and then I’ll tell you what to do next.

While I’m giving out the raisins, notice if you like raisins and you are getting hungry. Notice if you do not like raisins and how that makes you feel. Maybe you wish I was giving out chocolate chips.
Today we are going to practice mindfulness of eating. For the first part we will have our eyes open, but it is very important that we are silent, not talking to each other, and also that we are not looking at each other during this time.

Look at the raisin in your hand. Let’s use our imagination to guess the story of the raisin. That means, how did the raisin get to you? Think about the farmer who grew the grapes, the pickers, the packagers, the transporters, the grocery store, etc.

Now look more closely at your raisin. What do you notice about what they look like? Feel like? Smell like? Sound like? Now slowly put it in your mouth. Close your eyes and take one minute to slowly chew, taste and swallow the raisin.

What did you notice?

The movement of your tongue? Your teeth? Moving the raisin? Smell? Changing shape or flavor?

Now take one minute to eat the other raisins noticing ways that it is different than the first.
Now I am going to ring the bell to end. Listen to the whole sound of the bell, and when you cannot hear the sound of the bell anymore, open your eyes.

Answer the following questions silently to yourself... Did the raisin taste good?
Did you chew on the right or left side of your mouth? Did you swallow on the right or left side?

How did it taste compared to how your food normally tastes? How do you eat at home? "

Source: Mindfulschools
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Sunday, March 5, 2017

How Mindfulness Can Change Your Family, Community and Life

A very complete analysis of Mindfulness - at home, at school.. in the world!

"When Jenny Zenner’s twin boys were babies, she wore the patch of carpet in front of their
crib thin as she paced while using the breathing techniques from her mindfulness practice. 
“My son Fauss was so fussy that I would ‘om’ to him repeatedly because it was the only way I knew how to shift my own energy. He would start to resonate to me and ‘om hum’ back to me,” says Zenner. On their first airplane descent, Fauss started to get agitated. But instead of crying, he began humming “om.” A fellow passenger looked at her and said, “That’s not unpleasant.”
To Zenner, it was a small, but real, sign of success.
Six years later, Zenner continues to use mindfulness to try to be a better mother — it’s never a place she arrives at, but more of an ongoing journey with successes and challenges. This past holiday season, Fauss asked her to open up an ornament containing a note that read: “Mommy, I wish that you would be better.” Upon further discussion, she learned her son wished she would yell less.
And don’t many of us want to yell less? Sure, we would like to keep the peace and to model good behavior for our kids (not to mention keep our blood pressure down). But increasingly, many families and experts feel that we need to become more mindful in order to strengthen something else that feels as though it’s taken a national beating lately: our empathy and compassion.
If we were to give our own “state of the union” on American empathy, we might say it’s a bit sluggish.
According to one recent review of an empathy and compassion standard assessment taken by 13,000 college students between 1979 and 2009, levels of compassion and empathy levels are lower now than at any time during the past 30 years. That doesn’t even take into account the bruising from this past political season, which definitely spilled over into our kids’ worlds as they watched parents and politicians speak and behave in an unprecedentedly rough way.
And a new global survey, led by William Chopik, an assistant professor of psychology at Michigan State University, found that while the United States ranks in the top 10 empathetic nations in the world, we aren’t number one (that distinction belongs to Ecuador). The U.S. is number seven.
So, we could stand to become more compassionate. But what does mindfulness have to do with it? Potentially, a lot.
A study conducted at Northeastern University and published in 2013 in Psychological Science found that eight weeks of meditation proved enough to triple the likelihood of a person helping a stranger in distress, such as a person with an injured foot who had nowhere to sit.
Another study, conducted in 2008, found that even just a few minutes of loving-kindness meditation “increased feelings of social connection and positivity” toward strangers, suggesting “that this easily implemented technique may help to increase positive social emotions and decrease social isolation.”
Once we are calmer, we can start viewing life experiences through a wider lens, says Susan Kaiser Greenland, a Los Angeles–based mindfulness and meditation teacher who developed Inner Kids, one of the first mindfulness programs in education, which began in 2001.
It can be helpful to think of mindfulness as a one-two punch. First, it can calm your nervous system when it’s in a reactive, inflexible mode,” Greenland says. Then, compassion is possible, she says. We can listen better, taking on new ideas while holding others’ needs within our thoughts.
Zenner believes practicing mindfulness as a family has given her kids language regarding their emotions. “This sharing creates an opportunity for all of us to be accountable for our behaviors. Better yet, mindfulness shows us that we can change our behaviors,” she says.
“It’s less about getting it right every time — sometimes I yell — it’s more about this growth mind-set. I (and my kids) can develop skills, and change is possible.”

Parents first

While mindfulness programs for students have been integrated into many schools, many experts feel it’s most effective to teach these practices to parents and teachers first.
“I’m all for teaching kids how to regulate their emotions. But we need to think about systematic change, and that starts with us, not the kids,” says psychologist Mark. T. Greenberg.
A 2014 study Greenberg worked on suggests even brief mindfulness training for parents may improve parent-child relationships. One group of the parent participants (all with children in sixth or seventh grade) completed a standard parenting program; another group received a version of the program that also included mindfulness practices; a third group had information on the program sent to their homes. Researchers wanted to know if adding mindfulness to the program would increase its improvement of family life. Parents learned how to do short reflections, how to listen more deeply and how to find compassion for themselves and their children. The mindfulness did enhance the effects of the parenting program. “The teens said it improved the warmth and communication, especially with their fathers but also with their mothers,” Greenberg says.

Practicing mindfulness can help raise the number of best parenting moments and decrease the ones we are ashamed of, sad about or disappointed in.

So, what does mindfulness actually mean? It’s not necessarily a two-week retreat sitting in silence (although a short sitting practice can work for parents and children, Greenberg says). Think simple, daily practices: having gratitude, setting intentions, taking deep breaths to reset yourself when you are emotionally aroused.
As parents, we already know that our children feed off our emotions, says Liliana Lengua, a professor and the director of the University of Washington Center for Child and Family Well-Being (CCFW). “We even may know the most positive and effective parenting practices for our families, but we all are sometimes hampered in our ability to carry those practices out. We are stressed or emotional or reacting with anger. We say, ‘That wasn’t my best parenting moment.’
“Practicing mindfulness can help raise the number of best parenting moments and decrease the ones we are ashamed of, sad about or disappointed in,” Lengua says.
To that end, parents can take mindfulness classes at CCFW that teach stress management, self-compassion and compassion. Lengua says parents who’ve taken the classes, including a mindful parenting class she developed, can manage their stress and their emotions before they try to engage with their children; learn how to have more focused, quality time with their children; and enjoy the time with their children more. Another local mindfulness program is Listening Mothers, an eight-week program offered by the Community of Mindful Parents that helps mothers of new babies reduce stress and increase well-being. 
Making mindful families
It’s really counterintuitive for kids to sit still for five minutes, yet my most reluctant student was hooked after she practiced while sitting on the floor.
Crisscross, mindfulness pose
Teaching mindfulness to kids is all about modeling, says Sarina Behar Natkin, LICSW, a Seattle-based parent coach who has practiced mindfulness with her two girls (now 11 and 8) since they were little. “When a child flips their lid, they won’t choose a [mindfulness] tool from their wheel of choice. You pick something yourself and you do it,” says Natkin. “When you freak out yourself, you say, ‘I’m going to go take a mindful moment for myself. I’ll be back when I’m calmer.’”
Natkin says modeling these practices isn’t about not making mistakes; it’s about making your mistakes visible, verbalizing your discomfort, and using tools to re-frame and calm yourself. Then you can finally fully let go of your 3 p.m. freak-out show.
This verbalization of your techniques begins a shared family mindfulness language, too. The good news is, the more you practice, the less you flip your lid. (...)
Although a mindfulness curriculum might feel trendy, Greenberg points out that the SEL program he codeveloped has taught children worldwide to practice “doing turtle” for decades. When children are upset or anxious, they do turtle by taking long, deep breaths before they decide how to behave or respond. He feels that mindfulness activities can be important supplements to existing SEL programs, which many states, including Washington, now require districts to teach.
“Through practicing mindfulness skills in a similar manner that kids practice math facts, students are learning to sharpen their ability to focus their attention,” says Greenberg.
It even has the power to help us be nicer to each other, from the playground to the political arena.

“There’s also a focus on compassion, caring and kindness. Mindfulness is not just about your own inner thoughts and feelings, it’s also about becoming more aware of others. This ability to put yourself in the shoes of another person brings about the thoughts of wanting to relieve the suffering of others. Some say this arises from having compassion for yourself.”
But not all SEL curricula focus on mindfulness, and, in fact, the two are very different things, says Arlen Levy, a mindfulness educator in Bellevue with Mindful Schools. For example, the popular RULER SEL curriculum used in Seattle and Bellevue public schools touches on mindfulness with its Mood Meter, which helps students tune into their feelings, but it doesn’t include deep student or teacher training in mindfulness.
“Mindfulness practice doesn’t happen just like that,” Levy says. “It’s hard, and it takes a lot of time before you start to become aware enough to see change.”
Many teachers are working to integrate mindfulness into their daily work. Kristyn Herrmann works to teach her students self-compassion and the realization that others feel the way they do during a daily 9:30 a.m. mindfulness session at TOPS K–8 School in Seattle’s Eastlake neighborhood. Herrmann, a third-grade teacher, was one of the first U.S. educators to pilot the Web-based mindfulness and meditation app Mind Yeti in 2015.
She asks her students, “Did anything happen this morning or last night that made your heart race?”
“If they’re comfortable with sharing, this gives them a specific time to be vulnerable with one another in a safe space,” says Herrmann. “The kids love when I share, too. Like about when I was in third grade and I remember how mad I was when my frenemy cut me in line.”
After the kids meditate, they talk about whether they’re still mad or if they feel better, and what works or doesn’t work.
“It’s really counterintuitive for kids to sit still for five minutes, yet my most reluctant student was hooked after she practiced while sitting on the floor. I’ve told them they can squeeze and then release their fists or rub the fabric on their cloths or their ear lobes. Recently, I saw one of my boys who has bigger emotions rubbing his ear lobes while trying to focus later in the day.”
Herrmann believes Mind Yeti’s guided meditations are helpful because the tools translate to life situations. After recess one day, a student told Herrmann a friend was upset when he missed a soccer goal. He told her, “I wanted to let you know Fred* was really upset. I said, ‘Hey, you should take some deep breaths like we do in Mind Yeti’ and it worked.”
Still, Herrmann admits she is the person perhaps most affected by Mind Yeti. Anxious and high-energy by nature, she feels grounded and has sought out more mindfulness techniques outside of classroom time.
“[Students are] going to learn better if I’m the best, calmer version of myself than from the pulled-my-hair-out version of me,” says Herrmann. Her school’s 7:15 a.m. staff meetings begin with a mood check-in and meditation, too. She’s noticed that as staff members have increased their mindfulness modeling, students have been more willing to buy into this mind-set, too. "

Source: https://www.parentmap.com/article/how-mindfulness-helps-families-and-communities

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